@kaikatsu never even knew cc tap was a thing until about 6 months ago when a guy at subway thought I was a complete moron after he said "tap! tap!" as I'm trying to insert the card. Now that I'm acquainted, I wouldn't have it any other way. Still don't think I'd pay with my mobile device, though. I still turn off my WIFI when I leave the house.
@kaikatsu I still use an MP3 player for tunes, and a Garmin for GPS. I like dedicated tech for a singular purpose, but also I'm very wary of just about everyone and everything wanting *all the data*. This is the first social media I've used in 10 years and I access it through TOR. Getting a VPN on top of that when I can. Impractical? Sure. But whatever makes my naive brain feel better about our eventual reduction to advertising metadata. Otherwise, I'd be lighting molotovs by now
I run my work profile through OpenVPN too with very few issues, and only my bank app excluded in case they try to freeze my card for logins over VPN.
@kaikatsu yeah it's upsetting that we can't even expect a level of privacy, no matter how hard we try, in the modern era. I'll check out Shelter, that might be an option for expanding my anonymity. Thank you!
I think the modern reality is having a public regular identity, and trying to keep the rest secret. With Facebook's ghost profiles, you can only imagine what other companies are doing. So best to keep a clean public face to appear normal.
@kaikatsu I'm aware of burners, I spent my twenties pretty tight in a lot of drug dealer circles.
I think my public face is already pretty well known and gonna be hard to clean up - one reason I haven't run for any political office. Turns out, most people hear "I use LSD once or twice a year" as "I inject speedballs and kidnap your daughters to fuel my amphetamine rage" but whatever, these are the times we live in. I just hope when they come for me I have a chance to go down kicking.
@kaikatsu yeah. Turns out all those kids that never touched a substance ended up as adults eventually. My girlfriend doesn't even drink; I pretty much only dose when I go to an Incubus concert now. There's a large section of the populace that have no idea how to differentiate between heroin, meth, and DMT.
@kaikatsu haha yep. Actually I'm really enjoying the distorted video effects that are becoming popular lately - datamoshing? - has a super cool heavy-trip effect that I'm digging is becoming part of the Gen Z wheelhouse. Maybe they'll push for the drug legalization policies Millennials as myself have dropped the ball on getting passed.
I saw some really good datamoshes that are exactly what a high dose LSD trip felt like.
when i left twitter, a handful of people followed me onto the fediverse, and i've been able to drag a social circle of 15 or so people after me to various IRC networks. my social circle now is very small compared to what it once was, but it's higher-quality than it's ever been before in my life
@velartrill @kaikatsu I agree to some extent, but to another extent countries have allowed, to a staggering amount, the ability for these companies to collect and use vast amounts of data that is not relevant to the products their users consume. We need stronger consumer rights legislation for the 21st century, allowing users to *at least* opt out of datamining such as harvesting links from other sites and services, and collecting location data when no location-based service is being utilized.
social media varies ime; i met all my partners through it, including the one i married (on fedi) but also the psychotic furry who abused me for months and then broke every promise they made and dropped me (on twitter, where they actually work irl), so ymmv
@velartrill @kaikatsu I don't think it's that so much RE: dating sites. I think there's just an inherent imbalance that becomes overwhelming for cis women getting bombarded with creeps, and cis guys being a fish in a populated pond. Can't speak for non-cis/hetero experiences. Bumble seems to be an interesting attempt at correcting these issues but sans a FB acct I could never try it out.
There's nothing wrong with social media inherently, but datamining and toxic people ruin things for everyone
i'm not sure what being cisgender has to do with this. also what are you talking about? most of the 'creeps' are on grindr and craigslist or wherever, the men on normal dating apps like tinder or okc vary between boring-but-normal, fuckbois, and desperate nerds (tho i've seen relatively few of the last -- it's mostly fuckbois). if you think it's 'overwhelming' to be 'bombarded' with interest, affection, and male attention, you must be one hell of an introvert.
ofc, having ready access to an unlimited stream of disposable dick does really bad things to womens' brains, but in a very different way from the way constantly struggling for the attention of shallow women among a vast sea of competitors wrecks men. it bloats our egos, gives us inflated perceptions of our own desirability, and promotes slutting around instead of finding a stable partnership. if you look at the stats, you'll see that coming out of internet dating married (or at least with a long-term boyfriend/girlfriend) is one of the most unlikely outcomes.
tl;dr internet dating is absolutely crushing for men (and lesbians) because these sites designed to keep people using them, not to help them find lasting relationships, and because human courtship behavior and sexual strategies lead to very very toxic effects in this context. maybe there would be some way to re-engineer these apps (if we lived in some glorious socialist utopia where they were developed by a government that was invested in helping people build stable long-term relationships and start families rather than squeeze every last penny out of them and throw their husks to the wolves) to be compatible with humanity, but i doubt it. it's just not what we evolved for.
bumble is a disaster. i guarantee you 90% of the women using it are psycho feminists, because that's precisely who they market to, and the men are mostly gullible self-hating simps no self-respecting woman would fuck unless she was totally desperate. it's also built on a complete inversion of human behavior, which doesn't exactly predict success. stick to okc or tinder if you really absolutely have no other choice imo -- still full of boring and/or terrible people but at least it doesn't pre-select the ones who are most unfit for relationships.
I don't think things like Tinder are bad, I think pretending looks aren't the most important thing is silly. I think it would work better without the hedonist hookup culture we have. Find someone attractive, get to know more, ez pz.
>and the men are mostly gullible self-hating simps no self-respecting woman would fuck unless she was totally desperate
me too thanks
Also re: creeps / cishet women, just reporting what I've heard from most of my close female friends. Worst my current girlfriend has had to deal with, though, has been a guy who thought negging her as "mom jeans" on their first & only date. That story got a chuckle outta me.